Love isn't the only factor for a couple to walk down the aisle - Yinz

又下雨了。。。怎么又下雨了?

Love isn't the only factor for a couple to walk down the aisle. I was so stroked dumbfounded when I read that (from Yinz) that I do not know what to reply for a long time.
My ladies are being helpful, being truthful.

Love isn't the only factor.
It isn't the only factor for a couple to last.

I thought about it for a long while. For the bulk of us, we may not be that lucky to eventually marry the one we love or be with them. (With the very exception of Fyn. She is the only one I can think of now.)

Cruising in the cruel reality of this society, how long is the feelings of love suppose to last? Throw in other factors like the one you love may not be able to bring you the security, the material comfort and likely the difference in views/characters/thoughts, how long can the passion of love last a couple?

I am quite torn. Really. Words made solutions really easy and yet the complexity of it is so overwhelming.

I know I hurt Jason terribly yet again.
Please believe me that I never felt good doing hurt to others, especially to him.
Please stop asking me what I should do, what my decision is. Though it is something that I should already done so yonks ago but if it has been easy for me, then why am I falling back?

It is not too that I have not decided. But funny how Fate puts me to test each time. Throw in other factors that I felt tired of this relationship over and over again...I know..who am I blaming?

When neglect is something you do it for a long time, it leaves a crack for someone to step in. And when you try putting your foot back, you would realised there is no more space for you.

That is not the crux of the problem, I know. So I never blame Jason.Sure I was angry but I never blame him really.

I shall stop trying to explain this.

I was reading 'The Notebook'. I cried so badly and never thought I would cry that badly for a novel.
There are very few that successfully knocked my tear ducts but I have not cried. Even 'At First Sight', I cried cos I felt compelled to and stop after 2 tears.

Was I overly upset?
Over and over again, I felt like Allie except I am not sure how my ending would be.

I leave you with some of my favorite excerpts from the story.

"Poets often describe love as an emotion that we ca't control, one that overwhlems logic and common sense. That's what it was like for me. I didn't plan on falling in love with you, and I doubt if you planed on falling in love with me. But once we met, it was clear that neither of us could control what was happening to us. We fell in love, despite our differences,and once we did, something rare and beautiful was created.
For me, love like that has happened only once, and that's why every minute we spent together has been seared in my memory. I'll never forget a single moment of it."
-Noah

"She shook her head thenm knowing she wasn't being completely fair. She loved Lon, and always hadmfor other reasons. Though he wasn't Noah, Lon was a good man, the kind of man she'd always known she would marry. With Lon there would always be no surprises, and there is comfort in knowing what the future would bring. He would be a kind husband to her, and shewould be a good wife. She would have a home near friends and family, children, a respectable place in the society. It was the kind of life she'd expected to live, the kind of life she wanted to live. And though she wouldn't describe theirs as a passionate relationship, she had long convinced herself long ago that this wasn't necessary to be fulfilled in a relationship, even with a person she intended to marry.
Passion would fade in time, and things like companionship and compatibilty would take its place. She and Lon had this, and she had assumed this was all she needed."
-Allie

"The reason it hurts sp much to separate is because our souls are connected. Maybe they always have been and will be. Maybe we've lived a thousand lives before this one and in each of them we've found each other. And maybe each time, e've been forced apart for the same reasons. That means goodbye is both a goodbye for the past ten thousand years and a prelude to what will come.
When I look at you, I saw your beauty and grace and know they have grown stronger with every life you have lived. And I know I have spent every life before this one searching for you. Not someone like you, but you, for your soul and mine must have come together. And then, for a reason neither of us understands, we've been forced to say good-bye.
I would love to tell you that everything will work out for us, and I promise to do all I can to make sure it does. But f we never meet again and this is truely good-bye, I know we will see each other again in another life. we will find each other again , and maybe the stars wll have changed, and we will not onlt love each other in that time, but for all the times we've had before."
-Noah.